Holy cow, I have been asked if I was ever physically abused. I thought I answered truthfully when I said no, but now I see I was indeed physically abused. He did all of the above! Plus when having sex he would always say I want to please you. Then he would proceed to hurt me during sex. When I complained he would call me a prude and say I just wanted an excuse to not have sex. Ironically since sex hurt after a while I didn't want sex. I fell for that one for sure!
I'm so sorry you went through all that, Theresa. Yes, that's definite physical (and sexual) abuse. Most women don't realize or recognize it, and they also tend to minimize and excuse away abuse as a coping mechanism. If they can convince themselves "it's not that bad," then they can at least get through the day without totally falling apart. Once we come to realize and acknowledge the truth, then authentic healing can begin! Hugs to you.
(As an aside, next week I'm having a guest blogger post an article from a male perspective. This article will discuss what authentic masculinity looks like and how, if we teach our young men the true meaning of respect, love, and what it means to be a civilized person, we could go a long way in helping prevent domestic violence. I think you'll enjoy!)
Holy cow, I have been asked if I was ever physically abused. I thought I answered truthfully when I said no, but now I see I was indeed physically abused. He did all of the above! Plus when having sex he would always say I want to please you. Then he would proceed to hurt me during sex. When I complained he would call me a prude and say I just wanted an excuse to not have sex. Ironically since sex hurt after a while I didn't want sex. I fell for that one for sure!
I'm so sorry you went through all that, Theresa. Yes, that's definite physical (and sexual) abuse. Most women don't realize or recognize it, and they also tend to minimize and excuse away abuse as a coping mechanism. If they can convince themselves "it's not that bad," then they can at least get through the day without totally falling apart. Once we come to realize and acknowledge the truth, then authentic healing can begin! Hugs to you.
(As an aside, next week I'm having a guest blogger post an article from a male perspective. This article will discuss what authentic masculinity looks like and how, if we teach our young men the true meaning of respect, love, and what it means to be a civilized person, we could go a long way in helping prevent domestic violence. I think you'll enjoy!)