Sarcasm as abuse. This is a topic that doesn’t get written about nearly enough, even though it’s not only very common in toxic relationships, but also very damaging. The lack of information on sarcasm as a weapon of verbal abuse makes the tactic even more confusing, and causes a victim to wonder if she’s being “too sensitive,” just like he says. Or maybe she’s stupid … just like he says.
You are spot on, every word! I lived with Sarcasm for 26 years. Actually longer, because even after the divorce he continued. In fact we have been divorced for 25 years, and on the rare occasions when we are together for family events, he never misses a chance to use sarcasm on me! Thanks be to God I am on to him now! But the damage is so deep and strong, it took years to be healed and set free!