Internal Family Systems is a therapeutic approach to healing that helps us further understand why some people attempt to control and manipulate others
Jenny, your articles are always so insightful. I’ve never heard of IFS before but am intrigued! I’d love to chat with you about a potential collaboration on my Substack - could you grab my email from your subscriber list and shoot me an email?
Great article-- this is a very informative and helpful perspective!
A question, I understand and believe in being patient with one who honestly wants to change. However as I know from experience and as you often say it takes time, years even, for one to heal and change. So in the meantime the abuser continues his pattern of abuse, his Jekyll and Hyde routine. Abuse doesn't just wear one down. It changes the victim to the point one loses oneself. So my question is does one have to stay with the abuser and put up with his abuse as he slowly heals? Its not just a matter of suffering. It's a matter of slowly dying because of the abuse and not just the times of obvious abuse. I think the worse abuse is the back and forth Jekyll and Hyde!