This article describes and fits perfectly my former husband, myself and our marriage. I have read all the articles posted in this newsletter. They all fit well with my married life, and they have all helped me in many ways including in my ongoing healing. But for me this article had helped the most. It has aided my ability to see and understand ever so much more clearly, taken away a lot of false guilt and brought yet more inner healing! Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for validating what I have endured for so many years.
"All you have to do is love me" he would say. I never understood why he would say that. Every time an argument would happen, his immediate response was "do you want out?" As the years passed, his behaviors toward me were as you pointed out...I was either a demon or his one true Love.
There was never a time when I was worth anything to him unless I placated his emotional needs. I was his care giver for almost 8 years before he died.
I grew to dislike him.
It's been 6 months and nothing takes away the anger I feel for the things he said and did to me.
Before he died, he said he was sorry for the things he did to me ON PURPOSE. I still can't get over anyone purposely hurting someone.
Your article has helped me see why he treated me the way he did.
Debby, I'm so sorry for the suffering you've been through. It must have been so painful to hear him admit that he did those things to you on purpose! I'm glad the article brought you clarity and, I hope, some peace in your heart. God bless you!
Wow! This so hit home! .I so recognize my partner in all the behavior you are describing
here. Definitely, his fear of abandonment and being vulnerable is totally driving this relationship and creating my eventual " abandonment" of him. Thank you for bringing this to our attention. Really very interesting read and definitely my experience and reality here! We do stay too long in these relationships but information and knowledge, understanding of the issues at play here, is so important. Your contribution and shedding light on these issues is making such a difference in my life. Thank you. Truly, thank you!
This article describes and fits perfectly my former husband, myself and our marriage. I have read all the articles posted in this newsletter. They all fit well with my married life, and they have all helped me in many ways including in my ongoing healing. But for me this article had helped the most. It has aided my ability to see and understand ever so much more clearly, taken away a lot of false guilt and brought yet more inner healing! Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for validating what I have endured for so many years.
"All you have to do is love me" he would say. I never understood why he would say that. Every time an argument would happen, his immediate response was "do you want out?" As the years passed, his behaviors toward me were as you pointed out...I was either a demon or his one true Love.
There was never a time when I was worth anything to him unless I placated his emotional needs. I was his care giver for almost 8 years before he died.
I grew to dislike him.
It's been 6 months and nothing takes away the anger I feel for the things he said and did to me.
Before he died, he said he was sorry for the things he did to me ON PURPOSE. I still can't get over anyone purposely hurting someone.
Your article has helped me see why he treated me the way he did.
Thank you
Debby, I'm so sorry for the suffering you've been through. It must have been so painful to hear him admit that he did those things to you on purpose! I'm glad the article brought you clarity and, I hope, some peace in your heart. God bless you!
Wow! This so hit home! .I so recognize my partner in all the behavior you are describing
here. Definitely, his fear of abandonment and being vulnerable is totally driving this relationship and creating my eventual " abandonment" of him. Thank you for bringing this to our attention. Really very interesting read and definitely my experience and reality here! We do stay too long in these relationships but information and knowledge, understanding of the issues at play here, is so important. Your contribution and shedding light on these issues is making such a difference in my life. Thank you. Truly, thank you!